Making Distance Work

.Sexual liberation.

livingoutsidetheboxx:

People often think that when you get into these long term rerelationships, the sex inevitably will become mundane and routine. This isn’t the case. It’s very easy to allow your sex life to become this way because you become overly confident that you know everything your partner likes and all the buttons to turn him or her on. That’s not the case. Your partner will discover new things they like through self exploration, books, adult movies while also drawing from experiences with previous partners so why shouldn’t you be a part of that journey? Try new things with your partner no matter how old the relationship. Fantasize aloud to each other, share sexy stories…desires..lust after each other. Recreate that feeling of newness and anticipation that built up to the first time you had sex. Tease each other. ..don’t always just go for the obvious orgasm. The most unexpected methods can produce the best results. Don’t shy away from anything new or anything heteronormative or homonormative that your partner may have enjoyed from previous partners. Sex isn’t a competition between you and your partner’s exes… it’s a culmination of all sexual experiences combined into one deliciously erotic almost tantric like experience. So don’t be shy…open your mind to the possibility of ecstasy like you’ve never known before.

xfreebirdsx asked: Hi, I'm having a hard time trying to tell my parents I'm bisexual. I have a girlfriend at the moment but haven't told them yet. If you could give me some advice that'd be sweet. :)

Hi

I apologize sincerely for the delay in responding to this. Tumblr has not been so good at notifying us on whether we have a new message or not. 

First of all before I give you the cliched speech about how freeing it is to “come out”, I will say from experience it all depends on the type of relationship you have with your parents. Are they open minded? Are they the type of people you can talk to openly about anything? I would say tread gingerly throughout the entire process. I don’t know your personal relationship with your family but if you feel they will be open to what you are saying and supportive of your life, then just tell them and maybe extend an invitation for them to meet your girlfriend.

I wish you the absolute best. All you can really do is be honest. :)

Good luck.

-Kris 

The Panda & The Giraffe

hey there! i’m amanda, better known as the panda on me and my girlfriend’s shared tumblr: thepandathegiraffe. her name is jessica.

we met online about 3 years ago on a forum she was running and became fast friends. we IMed, texted, skyped and messaged on Facebook. i didn’t realize there was such an age gap between us at first because we had so much in common. like down to home life, likes/dislikes, etc. it was crazy. (just so you know, i’m currently 24 and she’s 18 next month.)

anyway we spent that year hanging out and sharing everything really. she was a really great long distance friend.. like a pen pal, almost. in august of 2011 we started talking more regularly (like, daily). and in september, she went to pride with her friends in vegas and i went to a gay club in delaware with my friends. and i got drunk, ha, and made out with some girl and immediately told her about it. she made a comment like “i wish i couldn’t made out with someone here.” and i said “psh, i would’ve made out with you!” and she said “really?” and i said “of course!” haha and pretty much the rest is history. 

we spent the next month texting nonstop and spending hours each night on the phone talking about everything and anything at all. on skype on october 12, 2011, jess asked me to be her girlfriend. and that’s what we’ve been ever since. i met her for the first time in december 2011, and visited again in june and november. we’ve only spent about 3.5 weeks together in person, but this june we’ll be spending about 40 days solid together and couldn’t be more excited. she’s coming to stay at my apartment in new jersey!

we’re trying to make plans to move closer to one another soon, but we have a lot to get through before we can make it happen. keep your fingers crossed for us. :)

anyway, we keep our tumblr updated with stuff about us - we also answer questions and share other peoples’ stories.. so we encourage you to come tell your story to us!

also!! this summer we’re going to be in new york city for pride 2013 and would love to meet some of our tumblr friends!! drop us an ask or shoot us an e-mail for more information.

thanks for reading! xoxo the panda

Anonymous asked: I wanted to ask what to do, I'm a lesbian and I'm still a virgin. My gf is coming to see me soon and I don't know what to do. Help please!

Hi :)

Okay for starters, being a virgin isn’t a bad thing or anything you should feel ashamed of. Being a virgin is a personal choice, however being apprehensive or scared of sex makes virginity circumstantial. You shouldn’t be worried about it with your girlfriend coming. Now I’m not fully understanding if you’re worried that you’ll feel pressured to have sex and you’re not ready, or if your girlfriend doesn’t know you’re a virgin and she’ll find out when she visits. Either way, your girlfriend loves you and love means being patient and going with the flow. There are so many amazing ways to connect when seeing your long distance partner that don’t have to be sexual. And if you do decide you’re ready for sex, take it slow…take it easy…make it count and do it in your own time. Your first time should be very special and should be something you’re ready for. You’ve waited this long for a reason right? :)

You two will have a great time together. Just take everything slow, have fun, and enjoy yourselves.

-Kris 

xx

thehappymonologues asked: I just wanted to thank you so much for sharing our short with the community. We appreciate it so much! Thank you thank you thank you!

You’re very welcome. Any and all love we can share with the community we will do. :)

a short film that my boyfriend and I made based on our long distance relationship!

Hello!

My boyfriend and I are both actors and filmmakers and we have been in a long distance relationship for over a year now. We decided to make a short based on the difficulties we have communicating with each other over webcam and in general. This is a very personal story to us and we decided to shoot it long distance to stay true to what we go through as a couple that’s fighting to stay together despite the circumstances. We hope that you could share it with the rest of our LDR community by posting it on your blog and reblogging it for us because we know other LDR couples will relate to this exact story!

I have included the youtube and vimeo links below as well as the short film’s facebook page! We cannot thank you enough and we hope that your relationship is happy, healthy, and strong. Keep fighting the good fight! Please feel free to email me if you’d like to chat!

Youtube: http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=tJ3I6KfFTR0

Vimeo: https://vimeo.com/60982043

Disconnection from KrimStine on Vimeo.

Facebook: http://www.facebook.com/pages/Disconnection/579299468747167 

Always,

Kristine Gerolaga

@kristeen_gee

www.kristinegerolaga.com 

P.S. Tumblr wouldn’t let me submit this as anything else but a Text Post. Sorry for the inconvenience!